January 1939. The fall of Barcelona confirms the defeat of the Republicans. Five hundred thousand choose a life in exile. Them and I follows the fate of the Esteva family during these terrible months and the five years of war that follow. Lluis, the father, lives in the hope of reconquest and sacrifices his own future for his ideals. His wife, Pilar, struggles to survive in this new country that she surmises will become her home. With her two children, Isabel and Ignacio, Pilar will have to overcome the attacks and the obstacles of a society undermined by defeat and collaboration.